Five Ways Having A Baby In My 30's Was Different to Having A Baby In My 20's

I had T when I was 20-years-old, N came along three years later at 23-years-old and then E made her big entrance when I was 31-years-old.

So what were the differences for me? Read on to find out...

1. I had much more energy when I was pregnant in my 20's, I still felt tired but not half as much as I did when I was pregnant at 31! I suppose some of that could be to do with the fact that I already had two other children (and a dog) to run around after so it's probably not all age-related. 

There were also more aches and pains during pregnancy in my 30's, I just felt generally more weary and uncomfortable.

2. I was far more laid-back both in pregnancy and when E was a baby. I worried a lot in my 20's because I was so sure that if I didn't do everything exactly as the midwife/health visitor/books told me to then I'd be getting it all wrong and be a terrible mum.

Obviously you have to take advice but you also have to trust your own instinct because at the end of the day it's your body, your baby and you know it best! This leads nicely to the next difference...

3.  Confidence! I had more confidence in everything to do with E, I guess by the time you're 31 you have a much better idea of who you are and what you are capable of. 

I also had more confidence in E's abilities, I wasn't constantly nervous about her choking on food or worried that she'd pick up some deadly disease if the whole room wasn't thoroughly sterilised. I believe this confidence rubs off on baby too because E is far more confident than the older two were.

4. Back when I had T and N I didn't care about having a tidy house at all so it was pretty messy. In my 30's however I'm kind of over the 'toys and junk everywhere' look so I do find myself getting quite agitated about it and try to tidy up as fast as it appears (not an easy task). This is when I have to rediscover the 20-year-old Kate - this post about being a mum and not superwoman helps me whenever I get overwhelmed by it all.

5. Patience is a virtue and this is something I definitely have more of in my 30's. I'm happy to spend as much time as E wants repeating things and re-doing things - I actually take pleasure in doing this because I know she's learning from it. My 20-year-old self would have been horrified. Yes I played with T and N but I hated doing the same thing over and over again, boring!

Have you had children in both your 20's and 30's? Did you notice any of the above differences? I'd love to hear from you.


  1. Interesting to read your experiences Kate. I was 29 and 32 so not a decade apart :) I enjoyed the first pregnancy but hated the second. I loved being a family of 3 of us and took a while to adjust to 4. I'm an only child from my parents' marriage so it was a whole new experience for me.

    Great post. Has got me thinking about how different life is today!

    1. I love to think back and compare things with how they are now! It's really interesting that you felt more comfortable as a family of 3, probably something to do with you being an only child because I come from a big family (3 older brothers) and it wasn't until E came along that I felt like we had a complete family. Now there's the question of going further and having a fourth!!

      Thanks for commenting x


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