How Children Can Be Bad For Your Self-Esteem
Today I'm talking about how the stages of a child's life can change their attitude towards you and how it can sometimes make you feel pretty rubbish.
When your little ones are little they rely on you for everything, you're their whole world. They look up to you as if you're their own special hero and you have to admit it kind of feels great to be put on a pedestal like that by those you love the most.
Fast forward to the school years and all that adoration changes. Sometimes it happens quickly, sometimes it's a gradual thing but happen it will. Let me tell you, your self-esteem can take quite a battering when your precious ones decide you're not the best thing since sliced bread after all.
They go to their new friends houses for tea and when they return they're like different children altogether. Suddenly our way of life just isn't good enough. Our house isn't as big as their friends house and they have a HUGE bedroom.
Their mum cooked the most delicious food they've ever tasted even though it's something I've been trying to encourage them to eat for ages but they wouldn't because "mum that stuff is gross".
Their car is state of the art (not like our rattly old beast) and they even have a bin that opens just by waving your hand over it - how can we compete with a magic bin!
Then there's plain old embarrassment which, I think, is the most difficult to endure especially when you consider yourself to be a young 'cool' mum.
I recently had to take T to his school for the Year 9 options evening and the embarrassment was radiating off of him. No I wasn't wearing pyjamas, I didn't have crazy wild hair, I wasn't loud or obnoxious. I was just me. Slightly shy, sit at the back of the room to avoid eye contact, me.
I won't lie, I was upset about it and questioned everything from my dress-sense to the way I style my hair. But then I remembered what it was like to be a teenager (as I said before I'm a young mum so I can just about remember those days) and realised that, although he might not want to be seen in public with me now, in the future he'll come back to me.
So even though my self-esteem was slightly dented, I will not take it personally.
Have your children been through this stage and are now happily out the other side (i.e. no longer visibly cringing every time you open your mouth)? Or are you currently going through it? I'd love to hear about your experiences.