When Your Children Argue


Parents who have more than one child will know all about today's subject...

When Your Children Argue

When you first have that second baby you simply can't imagine that your children will ever have an argument or not get on with each other, everything seems so perfect. Fast forward a few years and you'll struggle to even remember a day before arguments existed. By the time you've got to your fourth child you actually start to question your sanity and wonder why on earth you're putting yourself through all this again.

So how do I deal with it? I have a few different responses to the many arguments between our children and it all depends on the reason behind it.

If one child is clearly in the wrong then I will tell them that. This means that I'm 'sticking up for' the innocent party which obviously isn't going to make everyone happy because children never like their parents to take sides do they. This option makes you the bad guy to one of them.

It becomes more difficult when I haven't witnessed the cause of the argument. In this case I have to use all my detective skills to try to figure out what happened so I can decide who was at fault. This is always more difficult than it sounds because the two sides of the story never match up so I'm usually left as the bad guy to both of them.

Sometimes, when my patience is running really low, I'll tell them both off and send them in different directions. This inevitably makes me the bad guy in both of their eyes once again but sometimes I just don't have enough brain space to attempt mediation.

My final tactic is my favourite, I simply ignore the whole thing and pretend it isn't happening. I let them hash it out between themselves and then offer hugs and sympathy to anyone who might need it when it's all over. This option makes me the hero!

So now it's your turn, what do you do when your children argue? 

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  1. All of the above! It's a nightmare, isn't it? I hate it when my kids argue, but it's almost constant :(

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    1. It's such a horrible situation isn't it, definitely not my favourite part of parenting :(

      Thank you for stopping by Sarah!

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  2. My girls argue about everything. Mostly stupid little things like who's socks is who's or who has the most chips. lol I like to ignore the arguments too. hehehe

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    1. Oh those "I have more than you" or "mine's better than yours" arguments drive me crazy! I think ignoring it is definitely the easiest thing to do lol.

      Thank you for commenting Kim :)

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  3. From out of the other side ... they can become really good friends again :)

    I think it's great to let them 'battle' it out. Those skills are really useful in life (AND you're the hero :) ) xx

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    1. That's a good point Shaz, I won't always be there to fight their battles so it's good for them to learn to do it themselves! I'm looking forward to coming out the other side but at the same time I don't want them to grow up :(

      Thanks for stopping by x

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    2. They do learn a lot Kate - about themselves and other people as well as negotiating and sacrifice :) I think it's best to monitor (if you're within earshot!) and you'll know when it's best to step in if it's needed.

      I honestly thought my boys would detest each other through life :( but they have loads in common and as adults, find lots of common ground. The amount of times I despaired ... xx

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